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Essential- Intention

November 7, 2018 begins a new moon.  The new moon signifies the beginning of another cycle of growth and creativity, which is the perfect time to set intentions.  Setting my own intentions for the month is essential.  I have come to discover that if I do not set my own intentions, someone or something else will do it for me.  Perhaps Audre Lorde said it best- “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.”

The good thing about setting intentions is that you do not need experience- you just need to do it.  I have developed a monthly ritual devoted to new moon intentions simply because it reminds me to participate in non-negotiable self-love time.  This also ensures that I get very clear about the direction and activities of my life.  It is something that I look forward to; it has become a defining part of who I am.

Setting an intention in my opinion is very different from setting a goal.  A goal just sounds harsh, business-like and demanding and there will definitely be judgement in the end.  An intention is more about co-creation.  It is about going within yourself, finding out what you need in order to learn and grow, and asking the Universe to help you create the experiences that will cultivate the desired end result.  There is no time for judgement if things do not come along exactly as planned- there are no penalties, only learning growth and love.

Here are some of the essentials for setting intentions:


  • Clear your space. Clear your physical space, mental space, emotional space and your spiritual space. Remember that this is a co-creation. Honor yourself and the universe by making room for both of you to create.
  • Connect to your soul energy.  Determine if the things that you are setting intentions for are serving your ego or your soul.  The ego is usually concerned with superficial “needs” (bigger, better, faster) wile the soul is concerned with things that bring authentic power (peace, joy, fulfillment)
  • Narrow it down to just a few items.  This is a journey, not a sprint.  Decide on the things that your soul needs most.  Dig down to the root of why you want what you want.  This should allow you to determine if you are serving your soul or your ego.
  • Write your intentions the old-fashioned way.  Pen or pencil and paper.  Pay attention to the sound and feel of the ink against the paper.  Soak in every detail.  Feel the emotions tied to what you are intending.  Trust your feelings!

Pay Gratitude:

  • Meditate.  Thank the Universe for this sacred time and space.  Ask the Universe to help you to identify and release the things that no longer serve you (this works much better than self-judgement, trust me on this one).  Spend time with yourself, and your creativity.  Remember, this time is non-negotiable!
  • Consider offering a sacrifice, such as setting one of your intentions for your community or your national leaders.   For example, “My intention is to pray for the next elected governor  of my state each night regardless of who he or she is.”


  • Trust.  Do not become entangled in the details of how everything will work out.  Focus on doing the work of the intention that you set.  Hold up your end of the co-creative bargain and let the Universe do what it needs to do.  Resist trying to look at the Universe’s paper and keep your eyes on your own work.
  • Fall in love with yourself during the process.  Remember how you used to dream of being a great photographer?  Pull out the camera and start snapping!  Take 10 minutes of your lunch break and just snap away.  It will make you happy (self-love).

I would love to hear about how you set your intentions.  Of course intentions can be set at any time; doing this once a month just reminds me to take some time and really dedicate it to myself and my creativity.  This practice has truly changed my life in ways I could have never imagined. 

Disclaimer:  Buckle up!  Your words and intentions are powerful.  I strongly suggest that you become extremely clear about what you want and why.  I cannot stress enough that you should be sure that you are operating from the soul and not the ego.  But most of all, have fun!

Until next time, Happy New Mooning!- Namaste.



Essential Her…Breathe, Pay Gratitude, Love


Welcome to my first blog post! I am super excited to get started. First let me say that I am only an expert at being myself. The things that I share here are based on my personal experiences- but somehow I believe that there are other people who have shared similar journeys.  Over the past few weeks, I have discovered the three elements that are essential to my survival- to breathe, to pay gratitude and to love.

What I’m Reading:

Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav (25th Anniversary Edition with a Study Guide)


That thing that happened recently- the break-up, the job you lost, the kid that’s in trouble yet again, the loneliness, the infidelity – breathe that thing in.  Breathe it down to the tips of your toes- feel it as it burns in your chest and unsettles your stomach.  Don’t fight the tears that threaten to tear open your eyelids; let those tears flow like a river.  Let that deep and loud cry emerge and scare the neighbors (they probably deserve it).  You will not die.  There will be snot and swollen eyes and maybe even a sore throat.  You will recover.  You are on this earth to experience an array of emotions, not just the ones that make you feel warm and fuzzy.


There is always something to be thankful for.  It may be too soon to see the bigger picture, so let’s start small.  Let’s be grateful that your chest did not literally burn open and that an upset stomach may cause you to lose a couple of pounds.  Be grateful that the neighbors probably will not call the cops because of the interesting aroma coming from their apartment that can be smelled from 50 feet away.  Finally, be grateful that you just bought a new box of tissue (who does that? I mean toilet paper or paper towels), you look hot with swollen eyes and your sore throat gives you a reason to not go to work.  There is no small gratitude.


After you have gone through whatever with whoever, just send them love and light because #1, those things are free ( I am sure that their foolishness has cost you enough) and #2, the love you send will return to you in ways that you can never even imagine.


P.S.- Don’t forget to send yourself some love and light too.



Come, return to the root of the root of your self.- RUMI