Essential-The Reset Button

 

Recently I wrote about the flood of creativity that has thankfully come my way.  In hindsight, I have always been involved in something creative; I’ve been involved in  furniture restoration, crafts and singing just to name a few.

The thing that is different this time is that I asked the Universe to align my creativity with my true life purpose.  I asked, and I received a wealth of creative options, all of which spoke to me in some way.  That’s the beautiful thing about the Universe…it provides you the answers without taking away your free will.  Of course the Universe knows what you really want, but it gives you the opportunity to explore your creativity and to ensure that you truly want what you have asked for.  It’s almost like one of those exams that you take in high-school, you get all stressed out about it and then find out that the grade does not  even count.  The importance is in the exploration of the topic, not in the final grade.

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Breathe:

I am amazed at how things have come full-circle.  My true purpose and wish for my life is coming into fruition.  I feel it with certainty; it’s a feeling similar to when family is coming to town for the holidays.  You invited them so here they come.  I went on an adventure with my creativity; I explored all of my options, I wrote novels full of ideas and countless goal boards and vision boards.  It was an amazing experience and I learned so much.  The Universe even revealed a new gift to me that I did not even know I had; I am eternally thankful for how this gift has and will continue to enhance my ability to help others.

So much of what I have learned is coming with me on the next phase of my journey, but I also had to relinquish some of my ideas to the future.  It is as if I received an “all circuits are busy” message and I had no choice but to push the reset button.

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Pay Gratitude:

I am grateful for the clarity that I receive during my meditations.  I prefer to accomplish all of the goals that I set, but the Universe gave me a clear message this morning that completing every single goal that I have set was not the challenge.  The challenge was to become mindful and to reengage in the excitement of life.  The message was “Only those who are striving towards something great have to push the reset button.”  I am grateful that the reset button is a sign of growth and maturity.  In order to achieve greatness, there first must be focus and clarity.  Knowing when to push reset requires trust and commitment to your truest life purpose.

I am grateful to have discovered the invaluable tool that is my purpose.  When things seem to become complicated; whenever I feel lost or overwhelmed, I refer to my life purpose.  Like a compass, my purpose will always point me in the right direction; it will always lead me home.  No matter how thick and treacherous the forest becomes, the compass remains faithful.  It is a true friend.

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Love:

I love my new path, because now I am empowered to live my life on my own terms.  I do not compromise my purpose.  I always know how to reach my power source because it is located within me.  I am confident and free because of the consistency the Universe provides.  When I am living the values of my purpose, I feel infinitely supported.  I have everything that I need and abundance to share with others.

I love sharing this message with anyone who will listen because it saved my life.   I am no longer just getting by; I am thriving and excited about my life and my future.  I love that I am not perfect; imperfection allows me to dig deeper into the practice of unconditional love.  It allows me to look for new and innovative ways to create harmony and peace with others.  I love that the holidays do not stress me out because I have everything that I need on the inside.  I love that giving is greater than receiving.  I love that creativity is celebrated and rewarded in immeasurable ways when you live your true purpose.

Namaste!

 

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Essential-Accountability

Since starting this Essential Her Blog, my life has changed drastically.  I came to realize that I am not the only person who felt alone and disconnected because of the busyness of daily life.  My creativity was non-existent and I did not know the purpose of living.  Little did I know at the time that were so many other women out there like me.

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Breathe:

The Bible says to be faithful over a few things in order to become a ruler over many.  My group currently has two members outside of myself, and I am extremely faithful to them.  I look for more and more ways to be faithful to them and to be better and more consistent.  I am constantly bombarding them with ideas and sharing insights, probably to the point of nauseum.  I do this because those two women are me.

I realize now that the details are what count the most.  What if I had waited until I was at my ideal “full capacity” before starting this group?  I would have missed out on weeks or even months of life changing events that have already occurred between the three of us.  We have encouraged each other so much over the past few weeks; we have held each other accountable not only to our goals, but to the small steps that need to be taken to achieve each goal.  We share book ideas and inspirational videos.  We have each delved deeper into our individual aspirations.  I have even published my workbook that was created specifically for this group, which feels amazing.

Pay Gratitude:

Gratitude has become my life.  The more that I am thankful for, the more the Universe gives me to be thankful for.  It may sound super sugary, but I don’t really mind.  I am grateful for gratitude.  It has changed my life.  Not many people realize the depths of the hard times that I have endured recently because I simply chose to focus on what is going right.  Like everyone else, I am a work in progress; I don’t always get it all right.  But when I get it wrong, I acknowledge it, ask for forgiveness, forgive myself and proceed with love.  Being grateful does not make all of your problems go away, it just makes you thankful for what is going your way.  Gratitude holds me accountable to the things that matter most.  Love, happiness, kindness, compassion and creativity just to name a few.

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Love:

I want to again say I love you to the members of Essential Her- The Sisterhood Experience.  We have worked hard to identify our self-limiting beliefs and to make plans to overcome them.  As we all move into the next phase of accountability, I love that you have trusted me to lead this mission.  I also love that you have held me accountable- I never want to let you down so I work hard, except it doesn’t really feel like work.  It feels like sisterhood, like love and commitment to our advancements.  It feels like dedication to ourselves, our families and our communities.  I love you.  Namaste.

Essential-Making My Bed

I have a confession:  I never , ever used to make my bed!  In fact, my bed was always an absolute mess.  I never really cared about it,  until I started to care about it.  I now realize that my bed was a direct reflection of my life: chaotic, overwhelming and in need of clarity.

Breathe:

The more I reflect on my journey, the more I realize that there were so many signs that I was about to crash and burn.  My messy bed was one of those signs. A seemingly insignificant morning chore of making my bed has helped me to realize how important it is to be consistent.  Every morning now for about the past 2-3 months, I honor the place where I rest by straightening the sheets and smoothing out the blanket and fluffing the pillows.  It is a time for me to reflect on my blessing of having a warm and comfortable bed with clean linen.  This quick 1-2 minute endeavor helps me to reflect on my previous night’s rest and to think about the joys of the day ahead.

Pay gratitude:

I am grateful that this  simple morning chore has led me to be more consistent in other areas of my life.  Once the bed is made, then follows conditioning my home with the aroma of essential oils, which helps me to breathe deeply and focus.  Once the oils are going, it is time for some music to penetrate the atmosphere and raise everyone’s vibe.  Once the vibe is raised, breakfast and coffee are made and then everything seems to flow like the ocean (for the most part).

Before, when the bed was messy, there was yelling, frustration, tears, lost homework and missing gloves.  I could never keep up with my keys or phone and invariably had to go back into the house 10 times before I could leave for work.  My children were consistently 5 or 6 minutes late for school, and I am almost sure that they felt defeated before their day even got started.  I know this because that is exactly how I felt- like a defeated, subpar parent who never knew what was going on.

It is so amazing to me that one little positive shift can have such a big impact.  I love the results that being consistent has given me- I am better able to write out and reach my daily goals, my children have displayed better self-governance and self-control and we have all experienced greater creativity individually and collectively.  Of course there are days when things do not go as planned, but making the bed each morning assures that we get off to the best start possible.  Who knew!

Love:

Consistency is another word for love; it requires selfless dedication and commitment.  I have found that since I have made daily self-love non-negotiable, I am consistently reliable to myself and to my family.  I have made room to give and receive love by setting boundaries for myself.  Chaos (messy bed) and love (neat bed) are not friends; they are enemies and just cannot get along.  Chaos is confusion, pain and insecurity, whereas love is consistent and compassionate.  Love yourself enough to make your bed every morning.  Namaste.

Essential- Sisterhood

Today was a special day for me.   It was the realization of a dream.  Today my “sisters” came together for the first ever Essential Her Sisterhood Experience!

Breathe:

Okay, things did not go exactly as planned.  The morning started with a bit of a hair crisis that took two hours to resolve.  Then there was an extremely unfortunate septic event which required a trip to the store for some Draino.  I was missing a vital material for our vision board project…the vision boards.  And oh yea, I needed food.  All of this with a cranky 8 year old and a sleepy 6 year old, rain and freezing temperatures.  Minor details.

Pay Gratitude:

I am so grateful that I did not give up!  I must be honest, I looked at the weather this morning and thought…ugh!  This was not the weather that I had envisioned for my first sisterhood meeting.  I knew that I was less prepared than I wanted to be, and I thought about postponing the whole thing.  But then I thought about how much I had done over the past weeks to get this event together.  I also thought about how I just did not want to let these special ladies down, and I did not want to let myself down either.

Speaking of these special ladies, I am eternally grateful to them for coming.  They drove an hour in the freezing cold and were so understanding when they arrived.  I still had a few things to take care of before the meeting could start,  and they were patient.  They understood that my kids were there and interrupted from time to time.  They waited while I got the food prepared.  They even sat on the floor on pillows just to fulfill my vision of the sisterhood circle.  I am grateful for their feedback and for their attention to my quirky delivery style.  Kellye and Roslyn, I will always be thankful.

Love:

I love that the three of us were able to come together and to discuss real issues facing real women.  We read, we discussed our goals, we merged some ideas and expanded on others.  We laughed.  We thought deeply and challenged each other’s paradigms.  I love that we were so human and so giving and compassionate with one another.  I love that we are working together to help each other learn our true identities, and to learn our true purposes in life.  I love that our first meeting was perfectly imperfect.  I love that I feel alive, that I feel passion for living again and that hopefully I was a good servant of the greater good of humanity.

Finally, I love this quote by Zig Ziglar:  “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great”

Thank you to the first ladies to attend the Essential Her Sisterhood Experience, Kellye and Roslyn.  Namaste

Essential-Financial Goals

I believe in setting goals because they are so important to a successful life.  Otherwise, we are just drifting along and letting things happen as they come.  Sometimes it feels good to free-style- it reminds me of being a kid in the summertime going on endless adventures.  Being exhausted from activities such as swimming in ponds, cookouts, playing with friends and  watching fireworks is exhilarating.   Eventually however, both being a kid and the summertime ends and reality kicks in, and it is  best to be prepared.

Breathe:

I personally have come to love setting goals, especially new moon goals.  I like setting aside time just for me, which is like finding a rare treasure considering the pace of today’s busy lifestyle.  This month I am planning to dig deeper; I am  setting financial goals for the next 5 years and setting goals to diversify my streams of income, which are important steps to fulfilling my dreams.  I am sure that many people have set financial goals, but this is a new area of growth for me.   I have also found that many women that I know fall into the same category of being less prepared financially than our male counterparts.  Being a single mom no longer works as an excuse; I have the responsibility of supporting myself and my children in the most efficient manner possible.

It’s funny how we fall into the habit of leaving our futures to paychecks,  PTO and 401k plans.  The biggest issue of working a full-time job as a sole method of income lies within the lack of freedom except on weekends and holidays (if you’re lucky).  Personal adventures and aspirations should not depend on the whims of a corporate manager who must consider the schedules of 20 other people before granting you your own freedom.  This idea seems absurd and antiquated; it is time that we take charge of our own happiness by developing a solid financial foundation that is not based on a corporate structure.

Pay Gratitude:

I am thankful to live in a time when there are so many opportunities to find and explore the treasures of life.  I am thankful for the ability to reflect upon and develop my natural talents which can generate independent streams of income.  I am also thankful for the digital information that is available at my fingertips.  There are so many inspirational and financial speakers on various social media platforms who challenge our paradigms regarding financial freedom and abundance.  I am grateful that my dreams of travel, of being more present in my community, of meeting new people and of giving my children an international education are  going to happen.

Love:

It is self-love that makes you realize that you have dreams that your soul wants to fulfill.  Remember that little girl who dreamed of living along sandy beaches and smelling the freshness of the ocean air?  What about the girl that fantasized about a summer romance in Spain?  It’s never too late to revisit the passions of life.   We deserve to experience various forms of love, such as the sound of laughter from happy  children, the love of strolling hand in hand thru a national park, the love of standing in the flow of a waterfall or the thrill of zip-lining thru the sky.

Make self-love an uncompromising goal.  This is where dreams begin.  Namaste.

Essential- The Divine Universe

Sometimes the Universe reminds me of that extra pumped Little League Coach…she’s hyped and dammit you are about to be hyped too!  In the first 5 minutes of the first meeting, she’s calling roll, calling plays, passing out uniforms and team rosters, all while playing inspirational YouTube videos and giving out running high-fives and butt-pats.  Meanwhile, you’re 4 and a half and not even sure what sport you’re playing.

Breathe:

I love this about the Universe- she is our infinite source of support and motivation.  After years of living an uninspired life, I developed a loving and caring relationship with The Divine Universe.    I told  her all of my “secrets” and invited her into my life to guide me in the right direction of creative expression.

If I thought I would float away on a soft cloud of inspirational quotes, I quickly realized that this would not be the case.  My creativity is at an all-time high, so much so that I am constantly writing down ideas, then adding to them, then calling and recruiting people to help, then having video conferences and getting other people involved in their own creativity and building support systems.  It reminds me of that scene in the movie Armageddon, when they strike oil on the rig and the oil is shooting all over the place, covering the rig and the people in thick, silky black richness.

Pay gratitude:

I am grateful for my personal relationship with this Great and Divine Universe and for this new surge of creative energy.  It is not a cookie-cutter, one size fits all thing.  It is beautifully fluent; I can try new things and live a full life of curiosity and adventure and creativity.  I am not confined to one expression of creativity or one belief system.  I can study all different philosophies, I can like all different types of people and cultures.  I can keep the things that ring true and respectfully decline to let the things that do not ring true enter my system of consciousness.  I am grateful for the freedom and acceptance that the Universe provides.  I am grateful that I feel safe; that I am guided by the Universal language that we all speak; creativity, love, music, kindness, consideration, respect and free will.  I am grateful that I am guided  by the love of a zealous little-league coach who wants to see me live a full, creatively diverse and joyous life.

Love:

It is amazing how love works;  the more love you give, the more you receive.  It is impossible to out-love love, but that does not mean that I will not keep trying.  As long as my little-league Coach keeps giving me the plays to run and the equipment that I need to feed my creativity, I will continue to love.

It is my intention to squeeze every drop of love that I can from myself and spread it all over the world.  It is what I have come here to do; it is my purpose.  I want to see love win over everything.  I am a creative being with an infinite source of support- a gift that I will continue to share.  Namaste.

Essential-Meditation

I am not…I repeat…I am not a meditation guru.  I am sure that my lotus pose looks more like a dandelion in distress.  That’s the great thing about meditation-you don’t have to be an expert to get started.  You simply need to unplug.  Here is the story of my meditation:

Breathe:

I was forced to breathe in the fact that my life was a bit of a mess when I lost my job.  I have come to call this event my Universal rescue.  Since I chose to ignore all of the little warning signs along the way, the Divine Universe finally said enough is enough!  It took away the one area of my life where I was doing a phenomenal job at the expense of everything else.  There was no room for a romantic relationship and my children needed more mommy and less roommate.  Most of all, there was no room for me within my own life.

Once I finished crying and wallowing in self-pity, I  had to sit up and look around (in a lot of different directions), but let’s just start with my physical environment.  My beautiful apartment was buried underneath complete chaos!  Clothes were everywhere… on the floor, on the bed, in the hallway, on the couches…everywhere except where they belonged.  I slept in my bed with clothes piles, laptops (two or three), pens, pencils, shoes, papers, food, utensils, bowls and whatever else I didn’t put away.  My closet was full of clothes and shoes that were too big or too small or that I never got around to wearing at all.  On the other side of the closet were my project materials…plaster of Paris, boards, wood, pallets, paint… just stuff that I had accumulated and planned to use for projects but never got around to actually creating anything.

My health was another issue that I had to unpack.  This one was tricky because I was in great physical shape having just lost 20 pounds and my energy level was way up.  My diet was great and I exercised 5 out of 7 days of the week, yet every single month I had some type of new health crisis.  I had these crazy skin breakouts every month that created ulcers on different areas of my face and arms.  I had to have a tooth pulled due to immense pain and infection and I would get crippling pain in my back that landed me in bed for an entire day.  During these times, I also became  extremely frustrated and angry for no apparent reason.

Of course, issues of this magnitude do not happen over the course of a few weeks or even months.  Once I was forced to look at the bigger picture, I was able to see how this had been coming for years.  The only thing that I knew to do was to keep going- despite my absolute physical exhaustion and mental fatigue, despite depression and frequent suicidal thoughts, despite complete disconnection from any sustained life enjoyment, I just kept going because it was the only thing I knew to do.

People often say you have not because you ask not– but what happens to the person that is so entrenched in the everyday quick-sand of life that they do not even know what to ask for anymore?  Do you just cup your hands around your mouth, look down at them and yell “why don’t you just ask for help?”  Seriously, they are literally sinking!

Pay gratitude:

Unfortunately, sometimes we are all caught in our own personal quick-sand and forget to be compassionate to our fellow man; thankfully the Universe comes to our rescue.  I am eternally grateful for my Universal rescue- as you can see it likely saved my life.  The rescue was painful and scary, but most rescues are.  I was forced to just close my eyes and ride in the arms of the Divine Universe- and in closing my eyes I re-discovered meditation.  It is the only place to go when you’re scared and anxious and out of control.  We see it all the time when people ride rollercoasters- you’re up there now, there is nothing that you can do but close your eyes and go with it.  I returned to the source, which gives me comfort and balance.  It reconnects me to my passion and to my truth.  I am grateful for this roller-coaster ride and I have even learned to ride with my eyes opened, to take deep and cleansing breaths and to look at the beautiful scenery around me.  Soon the anxiousness turned to exhilaration- it turned into freedom and power.

Love:

I am not sure where I am on this ride, but it does not even matter.  I just proceed with love.  I have fallen in love with myself for the first time and it feels amazing.  I am discovering  my passions in life with newfound joy and energy.  My apartment is  as clean as a whistle because I love myself and I deserve to live in a clean and organized environment.  My bed is made every morning because I now honor my comfortable and warm place to rest each night.  My monthly ailments have vanished completely.  My creativity and ideas flow like rivers.

This is life- this is love.  Each day, I close my eyes and tuck myself into the safety of the Divine Universe.  I take a deep breath and I open the eyes of my soul.  This is my meditation and it is Essential.  Namaste.