After four months of being conventionally unemployed, I recently returned to work. When I lost my job as an executive director, I knew that I could not go back into that type of role. I realized that the things that I truly wanted…to be a better mom, to be more active in my own life and to be available for a romantic relationship could not be found in traffic jams and hospital meetings. In order to get what I really wanted, I had to make space. I had to get rid of the things that were sitting in the seats reserved for my own true happiness.
I decided to manifest a work from home position that would allow me to be more present within my own existence. I had plenty of time between jobs to dream big and to set goals that would allow me to do it all; write books, read books, meditate and connect with others, just to name a few. What I did not plan for was the amount of adjustment that it takes to work from home.
The first week was mentally challenging. I had to realize that although I was working from the comfort of my own living room, I was still working. This meant that I had to dedicate a work space, set up bulky equipment and actually be accountable to someone else for several hours of each day. I was literally late for work one day because I was so used to wandering around the city on my own terms, and time just slipped away from me. Now that I am close to the end of my second week in my new position, I am settling in to my new lifestyle, and I must say that I am excited about this new chapter of my journey. There is so much time flexibility and freedom that has been missing in my experience, and I am grateful that I am able to have a new type of reality.
Throughout all of the changes that I have experienced over the past four months, time has revealed itself to me as more of a societal fixation. It is a construct to keep us somewhat under control. Here are some of the time illusion management lessons that I have learned by working from home.
1. You are not being forced to do anything. External power trips tend to make us feel a false sense of obligation. This is one of the reasons that I am transitioning away from external titles as much as possible. External titles give a false sense of importance, which puts false limitations on our time. I did not have to be an executive. I did not have to dedicate 1.5 hours to travel, 8 hours to working, then another 1 or 2 hours of working after work to this title. It was a false sense of power that gave me a false sense of self-importance. Looking at this now, it is amazing how the perceived lack of time follows an inflated sense of importance.
2. There is a light and dark cycle; 24 hours in a day is a man-made concept. This revelation came to me when I was taking a nature walk during my lunch break. I knew that I needed to blog today but I did not have a definitive subject matter. I also had to think of the best “time” to blog around my conventional job. It occurred to me; I would still be a valuable human even if I did not get everything done within the strict timeframe that I had set for myself. We all have jobs to do here on earth, and I believe that everything that we are sent to do will be completed before we move on to the next realm. This is where trusting the Divine timing comes into play. I have set a standard for myself to blog every Thursday, but if I don’t it will be okay. It will still get done.
3. You can create your own time reality. Sometimes we get so caught up in statistical data and best practices that we forget about our individuality. While sleep is absolutely necessary, is it too far fetched to believe that some people may not need a full 8 hours per night? Maybe some of us need 4 hours of sleep, then 2 hours of awakened creativity, then 5 more hours of sleep. Maybe some of us only need to be completely unconscious for 6 hours per light and dark cycle. Personally I have found that my needs vary from day to day and my body and spirit appreciate the flexibility. This way of managing time has reduced my stress levels by about 98%. I just do what my body and spirit and creativity tell me to do and life is good.
4. You can be fully present. I do not even need to rely on a watch or a clock and I rarely know the actual date. I just know that I am present. Sure I set reminders for the important things, but I do not obsess over the past or the future. I found that this can be frustrating to others because it can come off as being aloof. For example, I had a birthday a couple of days ago, and my daughter was distraught that I was not overly excited. It is not that I was not excited, I just appreciate it differently. I just let those special days and events flow into my life without anxiety or coercion. I am present. If I listen to my body and my spirit, they will guide me to a full and healthy and rewarding life. I can be present for my children, for my job, for myself and for love. It is possible. There are many challenges that come with changing your lifestyle in this manner, but they are completely worth it. We just have to be brave enough to follow the path that has been set before us.
I am grateful for my ability to work from my home. Although I believe that this is the wave of the future, I know that this is not possible for everyone so I do not take it lightly.
I am grateful that I choose not to sit in traffic for hours each day. Now I spend that time taking care of my home or going for a walk or reading or creating something. My frustrations with not having enough time are a thing of the past.
I am grateful for the financial abundance that follows a life of passion. Now that I am spending my time on the things that I love, it is amazing how much farther my dollars will go. I am also much wealthier in time and health, which are the true measures of success.
I am grateful that I am connected to my authentic self. People always say that there is boredom with working from home, but I disagree. I spend my days fulfilling my purpose, which is an amazing feeling.
I love that I was able to loosen the constraints of my own deadlines to realize that everything happens at the right time- if there is such a thing. Namaste.