I have a confession: I never , ever used to make my bed! In fact, my bed was always an absolute mess. I never really cared about it, until I started to care about it. I now realize that my bed was a direct reflection of my life: chaotic, overwhelming and in need of clarity.
The more I reflect on my journey, the more I realize that there were so many signs that I was about to crash and burn. My messy bed was one of those signs. A seemingly insignificant morning chore of making my bed has helped me to realize how important it is to be consistent. Every morning now for about the past 2-3 months, I honor the place where I rest by straightening the sheets and smoothing out the blanket and fluffing the pillows. It is a time for me to reflect on my blessing of having a warm and comfortable bed with clean linen. This quick 1-2 minute endeavor helps me to reflect on my previous night’s rest and to think about the joys of the day ahead.
I am grateful that this simple morning chore has led me to be more consistent in other areas of my life. Once the bed is made, then follows conditioning my home with the aroma of essential oils, which helps me to breathe deeply and focus. Once the oils are going, it is time for some music to penetrate the atmosphere and raise everyone’s vibe. Once the vibe is raised, breakfast and coffee are made and then everything seems to flow like the ocean (for the most part).
Before, when the bed was messy, there was yelling, frustration, tears, lost homework and missing gloves. I could never keep up with my keys or phone and invariably had to go back into the house 10 times before I could leave for work. My children were consistently 5 or 6 minutes late for school, and I am almost sure that they felt defeated before their day even got started. I know this because that is exactly how I felt- like a defeated, subpar parent who never knew what was going on.
It is so amazing to me that one little positive shift can have such a big impact. I love the results that being consistent has given me- I am better able to write out and reach my daily goals, my children have displayed better self-governance and self-control and we have all experienced greater creativity individually and collectively. Of course there are days when things do not go as planned, but making the bed each morning assures that we get off to the best start possible. Who knew!
Consistency is another word for love; it requires selfless dedication and commitment. I have found that since I have made daily self-love non-negotiable, I am consistently reliable to myself and to my family. I have made room to give and receive love by setting boundaries for myself. Chaos (messy bed) and love (neat bed) are not friends; they are enemies and just cannot get along. Chaos is confusion, pain and insecurity, whereas love is consistent and compassionate. Love yourself enough to make your bed every morning. Namaste.